How can I make my 3 weeks old to sleep on his own?

2018-04-19 00:20:22

I have great milk supply, but these are my issues:

My son has barely ever slept more than 30-40 minutes at once during the day. :(

(At night time he does sleep for 3 hrs at least once. But generally every time he falls asleep after feeding I try to put him down, but he won't stay asleep unless I hold him on my chest. He wakes up almost 5-10 min into placing him down and rooting and giving signs like he hasn't eaten for a whole day. Then I feed him again etc and so this goes in circles.)

I am aware of the growth spurts but this is going on since birth. Is this ever going to shift?

He has gained weight, has perfect amount of dirty diapers etc.

I've read that other babies sleep 2-3 hrs straight, feed, then sleep again. I wish I could say the same.

Also he shakes his head while my nipple is in his mouth and gets frustrated, cries, bangs his head with my nipple in his mouth... :confused: (this happens after like 3-4 hrs of straight feeding=him hopping from one nipple to

  • So this doesn't seem too unusual to me. Many babies prefer to be held, and some more than others.

    A few suggestions:

    Have you tried swaddling? The feeling of being wrapped mimics the feeling in the womb, and my babies would not sleep without being swaddled.

    have you tried a swing? Some babies really like the gentle rocking motion (again, this mimics the feeling of the womb), there are many different models available. It didn't really work for any of my babies, but for some babies this is the magic bullet.

    Have you tried a pacifier? Your description of him eating for long hours and then getting frustrated seem to indicate he does a lot of non-nutritional sucking, he sucks for comfort. He might not want more food, but want to suck. A pacifier will help. Speaking form experience: A pacifier will not ruin the latch, it will not cause nipple confusion, and to get them used to it you have to start early!

    Does he sleep in a stroller/pram? We used both a traditional pram, where the baby

    2018-04-19 00:34:37
  • From what you describe about the baby's feeding patterns, it sounds like the baby is not actually feeding for the whole time he is latched on. At the start, it can be difficult to tell the difference between nutritive sucking and comfort sucking. You can try feeding the baby in a quiet place and see if you can hear him swallowing. For much of the time that you consider you are feeding him, you may find that he is just sleeping whilst sucking for comfort. When my baby was small, I rarely found that he would unlatch seemingly happy, full and satisfied as I had read should happen. The reason why the baby starts rooting after waking up could be because he wants to suck to help him go back to sleep, not because he is hungry. You could try using a pacifier if the baby takes to it.

    As for the sleeping, it can be difficult to get babies to sleep on their own. There are already a lot of good suggestions in these answers but a couple more things that I found were:

    the baby associates the mu

    2018-04-19 00:57:58
  • Here's a possible solution I don't see listed above: your child may have problems sucking or latching on. If your child is gaining weight but seems to be eating constantly, this might be a cause. He may not be getting as much milk for his efforts and is also a little hungry/frustrated most of the time. I would talk to your pediatrician about "tongue tie" (ankyloglossia 1) or talk to your local La Leche League/lactation consultant to rule out these possible causes!

    2018-04-19 01:19:11
  • You probably need to accept that baby wants to be sleeping with you and learn to simplify the feeding process, such as by co-sleeping. This can last 2 years, but it does end, as @Ida says.

    To add to @Ida's answer, make sure that your partner is taking a fair share of the load to give you a chance to sleep for more than 20 minutes at a time. This may include taking the baby for a walk or drive for over 1 hour so that you can sleep. Taking baby for a walk might be better, because it can be dangerous to leave a young one in a car seat for so long.

    2018-04-19 01:19:25
  • As you have asked a while ago: Hope you are better now!

    But as maybe more parents will check your question and the answers, I'd like to add my five cents.

    Ida has given an excellent list of hints, most likely your answer can be found there.

    Practical advice: when your baby wakes up when you put her down, you might be triggering the Moro reflex: try putting her down sideways, then turn her to her back.

    But: There are babies who simply can't cope on their own. My firstborn slept during his first year almost only with body contact. And no, we dind't "teach" him this, this started from day one at the hospital. Over time, we tried most approaches, but nothing worked. We worked closely with our pediatrician, too. His advice: Your son needs you. Deal with it. It will pass. And it did.

    The answer: We have a gifted child. His brain can't filter the impressions during the day properly, also, his brain works like a racing car -> this keeps him awake, even today. And he's eight now.


    2018-04-19 01:35:09
  • That seems normal to me. Or rather, one of the many things that can be considered normal. Many babies do feel like they nurse for hours on end, especially ones this young. It's not because there's a problem with you or with the baby, it's just what some babies do. They aren't eating meals and they aren't nursing just for food. Being close to mama and snoozing on her warm chest just feels right to them, and suckling nearly constantly is fine. Remember, when they were womb-bound they had a constant flow of "food" into their system from the placenta. The outside world adjustment is a tough one! It can be convenient to give yourself a break by switching out mama for pacifier, but let's face it, some babies just won't take one...

    Your milk flow isn't constant and while your baby is this young, sometimes it lets down very quickly. If he's having enough wet diapers and is gaining weight normally, you shouldn't be concerned about your son getting enough food, but it's very possible that he

    2018-04-19 01:54:39
  • From personal experience:

    When babies continue to root and sort of whip their head around, it tends to be because they are searching for the nipple. When they delatch and bob head and root again, this is all because they are seeking comfort, but not the normal comfort you are thinking of. I liken it to when we go to the medicine cabinet for relief.

    When a baby displays this behavior it can mean that they are in pain. Don't freak out, not serious pain, but more of a discomfort. Usually because they have air in their gut, either in the stomach or the bowels. They do that because that's all they know.

    Burp them or try a right angle body shape position to get rid of gas or poop. Also if that doesn't help, then I would try laying baby on your ribcage area on their stomach then, after baby is comfy, slowly flex and even roll your stomach muscles slightly. This will apply some pressure to the problem spot or spots of your baby.

    2018-04-19 02:11:35